I don’t know if this has anything to do with Davey’s autism or if it is just plain old stubbornness and hardheadedness! But since we got our new dog, Brielle, a few days ago, Davey is being an absolute monster! First of all there are the problems with him and Brielle. She has gotten playful in the past couple of days, and gets really frisky pretty often. Davey really wants to play with her but he is too little! He keeps getting her to follow him into his room, and tries to play with her in there, and then next thing I know he’s crying because she knocked him down or nipped at him or scratched him. I tell him to come here, I kiss it to make it all better, then next thing I know he is in his room doing the exact same thing and getting hurt all over again. He never learns!
Then there is the problem of him getting Brielle to follow him into our closets. Our closets are one big closet — someone took the wall in between them out sometime before I moved in here so they could put a hanging bar in the middle between the two closets (our closets are very small so I guess they needed more hanging space). So Davey goes in his closet, climbs over stuff into my closet, and comes out in my room, with Brielle following him through there. Then he shuts my closet, comes out of my room and shuts Brielle in my room and won’t let her out when I tell him to. So I have to go let her out.
Then he is also going in his closet during nap time and getting into stuff. Night before last, he opened 3 packages of diapers and had them thrown all over his floor which I found the next morning. Yesterday during nap he emptied out a new package of baby wipes and threw them everywhere and they were dried out and unusable by the time he got up from nap. This morning I found empty Walmart bags in his room. I knew immediately what they were from. I had my baby dresses and Davey’s expensive baby outfits he only wore for portraits hanging on baby hangers on the lower rod in my closet, with Walmart bags over them to protect them. I went to my closet and saw he had taken all those off the rod, out of the bags, and off the hangers, along with taking ALL my spare hangers off the bottom rod and throwing them in the floor of my closet and breaking some of them.
Yesterday and today I have been locking both our bedroom doors so he can’t even go in his room during the day, partly because of the problem of him and Brielle playing in there and him getting hurt, and partly to keep him out of the closets. I’ve decided I’m getting a chain lock to put on his closet door up high where he can’t reach it. That is pretty sad that I have to put a chain lock on a closet door! And I am keeping my room locked from now on when Davey is up, and usually his room too. I have a little thing off a sardine can that lets me unlock the door from the outside.
And then he is being such a brat about turning off the TV and cleaning up toys when it is time for lunch or dinner. He is so hooked on Elmo and Sesame Street right now that he does not want to stop watching TV when it is time to. I am having to tell him over and over to do anything that he needs to do. Usually I have to threaten to put him down for nap or to bed without lunch or dinner and sometimes even drag him to his room and put him on his bed before he will say he will clean up his toys and wants to eat.
It’s just been one thing after another and it is driving me crazy!
Edited to add: Since some have asked in the comments, Davey is 3, he will be 4 in February. He has been a handful since he was a newborn, first with colic and fighting sleep, then as soon as he could throw tantrums, the tantrums started. He’s better now than he was about a year ago — tantrums were TERRIBLE in the terrible twos! But still a handful now with not minding and still some tantrums. I believe he has Asperger’s or some form of autism and will be getting him re-evaluated soon. They overlooked something in his first evaluation.